How did my relationship get here?

Life is.. well life. It’s busy, we take on more responsibility, our health changes, we don’t prioritize our relationship, maybe we’ve had some kids. There is a million reasons why couples can hit this lull, but there’s also a million ways to get out of it- let us help.

I feel like we don’t even know HOW to connect anymore, is that normal?

We can’t decide what “normal” is, but is it common- yep. As we get busy etc etc (read above), we also change, and if we aren’t consciously and continuously connecting with our partner those small changes over time build up- and we do grow apart. As counsellors we love to listen to your story of how you met and fell for each other, and we incorporate that info into our recommendations, at home exercises and date night ideas.

I’m afraid this wont ever change.

You guys loved each other once upon a time, yearned for time together and connection with one another. We are very confident you can get back to that- let us help guide you.

Everyone says we just need to go on more dates, but we don’t have a village- so we just can’t fix this?

Let us be your village- we have connections to certified baby sitters & ECE’s who are happy to talk with you about support. We also have a fountain of at home date night ideas- connection doesn’t always mean going out.

In the past we used sex to reconnect- but that’s not working anymore- what’s wrong with us?

Nothing. More than likely sex use to do the trick because we had the social connection and free time to meet our other needs outside of our relationship- fill our cup so to speak. Now, things are more scheduled, life can get heavy, and we stop outsourcing. Sex isn’t fixing it all because it never did. Most couples need to learn how to connect outside of the bedroom before sex is firework worthy again.

My partner is hesitant to come, what do I do?

We don’t offer a kidnapping service, and so the best we can do is offer a free consult where your partner can get to know us and we can explain why the solo session is the best place for a hesitant partner to feel supported and heard- it also makes sure both partners know we are unbiased in session- supporting each partners goals and the shared goals of the couple.