How did my relationship get here?

Trust is broken or weakened for many reasons, by many things- each couple’s relationship is different. We like to use our solo sessions to understand your relationship and how you got here today, needing help- from both partners perspectives. Once we know how each of you views the path to broken trust, we can make a personalized plan to heal and rebuild.

My partner was unfaithful and I’m struggling to trust and be kind- can this get better?

Yes. With honesty and vulnerability, it definitely can. Infidelity is normally the result of an unmet need that maybe was or wasn’t communicated, it takes time to heal that pain and rebuild that trust. We remind couples that after infidelity trying to regain what you had isn’t the goal. The goal is to build something stronger and better, pulling forward all the positives and leaving the negatives in the past.

I’m afraid this wont ever change.

You guys loved each other once upon a time, yearned for time together and connection with one another. We are very confident you can get back to that- let us help guide you.

We can’t even talk nicely to each other- how can we do therapy?

Truth is, there will be more hurt before it gets better, but it can and will get better. That first solo session is crucial in this- you get the opportunity to just vent, let it out, grieve what you use to have and mourn where you are. We promote the emotions being explored in full capacity before the couples session so we can minimise the hurt, but also identify the patterns of communication that are helping -or- hurting your relationship. We are experts at guiding communication so it stays productive and kind, we force couples to pause, reflect and apologize in real time- accountability it key. We use talking sticks and more to create active listening skills, and even offer guided reflection questions for after a hard conversation or fight.

My partner is hesitant to come, what do I do?

We don’t offer a kidnapping service, and so the best we can do is offer a free consult where your partner can get to know us and we can explain why the solo session is the best place for a hesitant partner to feel supported and heard- it also makes sure both partners know we are unbiased in session- supporting each partners goals and the shared goals of the couple.